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BUILDING THAT SPECIAL RELATIONSHIP
A detailed set of instructions and descriptions for women who are serious
about instituting or improving good old-fashioned discipline in their homes
follows. If you are reading this section your eventual goal is a relationship
with your husband in which you hold the authority to give him the discipline
you see fit.
There are many men who entertain fantasies of being dominated by a forceful
woman all their lives yet would not dare ask their wife to spank them for
fear of her reaction. If your husband has asked you to try a woman-in-charge
relationship and you have agreed, you have more going for you than many
so-called "perfect" marriages. This article contains some useful ideas and
perspectives. But, you will eventually learn the most on your own.
You may want to do some reality testing with your husband by trying out some
of the following. If he doesn't cooperate, his desires may be more mental
fantasy than a willingness to participate in the reality of it all. He should
respond to your instructions for receiving discipline without argument.
However, if this is new for you, it will take some practice. Familiarity with
being subject to your discipline will grow over time and it may take a little
while to reach the stage where immediate, full compliance can be expected. If
he does what you say quickly and obediently, then you are well on your way to
a new and interesting relationship. You will also discover how a simple
punishment session can act as a pressure release valve for both you and your
The first thing you must do is to explain the golden rule of your proposed
(or existing) disciplinary relationship. He must render complete obedience to
you with regard to disciplinary issues at all times and must be willing to
carry out any and all orders you give him without question or hesitation.
The first time he refuses to obey an order you need to stop and have a
serious talk with him right then and there. If the husband is allowed to
dictate when he will or will not obey an order, then that leaves some
question as to who is really in charge, doesn't it? Once he has agreed to
these terms and understands that the whole scene will end permanently if he
is not cooperative, you are ready to begin.
The well-disciplined husband is a direct result of constant vigilance on the
part of the wife. Vigilance means being aware of almost everything he is
doing and keeping your rules consistent and predictably enforced. In many
instances your discipline will involve tasks and ordeals that he will find
highly objectionable. He must always be aware that any rebellion or
hesitation on his part will not be tolerated and will be met with additional
There should never be any doubt in his mind about your ability to administer
this punishment. The training methods suggested do involve strict discipline,
and strong doses of corporal punishment. They do not involve torture,
brutality, cruelty, or anything that could cause lasting harm. Some of the
physical punishments described are meant to be painful. There is no question
that welts will be raised and bottoms bruised, but chastisement should never
leave permanent marks.
A dose of corporal punishment should have a dual effect. It should be
extremely painful while it is being applied, and the area it was applied to
should remain very tender for a period of time afterwards. Corporal
punishment should always be supported with clear and precise description of
why the punishment is being done. I call this lecture and it adds an
important component to the experience.
No matter what instrument is being used, the DWC wife must always keep in
mind that the part most commonly on the receiving end, the buttocks, lay in
close proximity to such vital areas as the kidneys and tailbone. For this
reason you should never use a heavy or blunt instrument. Also keep in mind
that when you are administering a whipping, your subject is usually doing
quite a bit of twisting and squirming. Under these circumstances, it is easy
for a stroke to land off target. All the instruments I will recommend for
your "starter" set will be quite capable of doing the job but none will do
any real harm if a blow is struck high or low.
The instruments you choose to use for punishment should be comfortable for
you to handle. Naturally, as your experience grows, so will your collection,
but for now we will only discuss the basic items to start you off.
The hairbrush is first and it must receive the honors of being the most
popular item associated with "home type" corporal punishment. This is a solid
old-fashioned hairbrush. Not one of the modern little plastic brushes. I
refer to an oval-shaped hard wood brush with a nice flat back. You may have
to look around a bit to find what you want. Be prepared to pay from fifteen
to twenty dollars for a good one as it probably will be imported and made of
expensive wood and bristles. An interesting place to look is antique shops.
If you are lucky, you might find an authentic "turn of the century" model. If
you do, chances are that it has been used at one time or another for the same
purpose you have in mind. Your brush will last a lifetime, no matter how much
you use it. It has been a symbol of spanking and home discipline for years
and it is a must for your inventory. Once you have used it to spank your
husband, it will become something like a badge of office. It is an object you
can leave sitting out in the open and every time he sees it, he will be
reminded of the role you each play. In addition to a hairbrush you should
have at least one other paddle suitable for over the knee spanking. In a
pinch a nice flat sandal or slipper will do the job quite effectively,
especially on bare cheeks.
Next, you will have to obtain a larger paddle for more serious punishment, or
as I call them, "stand-up sessions." You can make your own, or if that isn't
feasible, can find a suitable alternative at any sporting goods store. Look
for one that is shaped like a large ping-pony paddle and is used for a form
of racquetball. Some even have holes drilled in them. The theory behind this
is that the holes allow the air to rush through, therefore giving the paddle
stroke more velocity. A handy substitute is a 24-inch wood ruler. Before
using it, wrap about five inches of one end with a good non-slip tape to form
You should have at least one good leather strap for your collection. It
should be of heavy grade cowhide, about 20 inches long and at least two
inches wide. Good leather preservative should be rubbed in by hand on a
regular basis. Besides making the strap pliable it gives it weight. Of
course, your husband should be responsible for proper care of your straps. An
alternative to a regular punishment strap is a leather belt. Simply double it
and use it in the manner taking care of course to hold on to the buckle end.
An old razor strap is a very effective instrument but the ones made today are
really too light to be effective. Another type of strap you can make, have
made, or purchase from a specialty store is called a "Tawse." It is a regular
leather strap except the last few inches are split into "fingers." I can
assure you that the feel of these fingers wrapping around a buttock or thigh
is not soon forgotten.
POSITIONS OF PUNISHMENT
Just as the hairbrush is a must for spanking, spanking is a must for corporal
punishment. By this I mean over-the-knee spanking, and no matter how big he
is or how small you are, an over-the-knee spanking is possible. Let's begin
with an average size man and woman. We will make no mistake who has superior
physical strength. Just remember that it is your dominance and his desire to
be submissive that puts him in the spankee position. What is this position?
First find a sturdy chair or bench to sit on. It will have to support quite a
bit of weight, weight that will be shifting back and forth, so it cannot be
weak or flimsy.
Once you are seated, and assuming you spank with your right hand, have him
stand at your right side. If you are going to lower shorts or pants, do it
now -- not when he is over your lap. Put your brush or paddle in your lap and
pull the pants well down below his knees. When you are ready to begin, tap
your leg once or twice with the brush or paddle. At this visual command, he
should quickly position himself across your lap. It is very important that he
be trained to do this without hesitation. If you let him get into the habit
of stalling after you have ordered him over, each time you give a spanking,
it will become more difficult to get him to assume the position.
The first time he hesitates after being given the signal, stand up and beat
his bottom and upper legs really hard. Try to become extremely determined and
irritated with him, perhaps raising your voice and getting a more stern,
irritated look in your eyes and scare him enough so that when you sit down
and tap your leg again, he will almost jump across.
Once he is across your knee, give him a few moments to get used to the fact
that he is about to be spanked. Begin by giving a couple of hard smacks, then
stop. The initial sting will be quite a shock to his system. If you were to
keep on, he would struggle so much out of reflex action it would be
difficult, if not impossible, to hold him in place. This pause after the
first few whacks will give him a chance to mentally gear himself for the
ordeal to come. Give him a few more hard smacks and pause again. He will have
started to squirm, but the smacks will have been given before any serious
movement takes place. His body will be very tense as he awaits the next round
of spanks. Wait for him to relax, and tell him to do so. Then resume the
Here are some ideas for you girls who have really big boys to spank. Your
method will be the same, but your positioning will be a little different.
Instead of him being over your knee while you sit in a chair, he will be
across them while you sit on a bed or couch. His own knees will support most
of his weight and elbows but his bare bottom will be right there waiting for
your paddle. The important thing is that he is being spanked across your knee
and this is what spanking is all about.
Even though I feel a good over-the-knee spanking will solve almost all of
your discipline problems, there will still be times when other methods are
necessary. An important part of his training is that he knows how to assume
different punishment positions when you give the command. There are two basic
positions for you to consider. These are the "bent over" and "laying down"
positions. The best way for him to assume the first one is to face the back
of a chair and then bend over it grasping the seat with his hands. If a chair
isn't handy, just have him bend over and grab his ankles. The important thing
is that he presents his bottom for you to punish. Apply your strokes to the
fat portion of his behind. Make him remain in a bent over position until you
are through. This will take considerable training, but if he knows you won't
stop until he stays in position for a given amount of strokes, he will soon
learn how to do it.
The next position where he lays down is suitable for any instrument. The
preferred method is to have him lay face down on a long bench with his
buttocks elevated slightly. The main advantage of this position is that you
can really put considerable force into each swat, and by simply changing
sides, you can see that each cheek gets equal attention.
Lecture him quietly on why he is being spanked. Tell
him if he weren't so bad and naughty you wouldn't have to spank his
bottom so hard, that sort of talk. For the next series, give eight
whacks. Continue to spank in this manner until you think he can take
the remainder of the spanking, which should be thirty to fifty spanks
A spanking should be an event to remember. Don't worry about how red
his bottom gets. The more color you put into it, the better you are
doing. Don't pay any attention to his cries and pleas and promises.
He will tell you anything to get you to stop. Allow him to squirm
within limits. If it gets out of hand, give him a smack or two on
the back of his thighs. If you give a spanking the way it should be
given, the results should still show a week later. He should wince
every time he tries to sit for days after. When you are through spanking,
or for that matter, giving any form of corporal punishment, be sure
he thanks you for taking the trouble to correct him. If you feel it
is appropriate have him go to a corner for at least thirty minutes.
If you wish, make him stand there with his bottom bared. Do not allow
him to talk, move, or rub his buttocks while he is there.
If you feel the least bit sorry for him during all this, remember, a
submissive man does not want a weak or lenient woman. He wants someone very
strict and dominant. If he wanted anything different, he wouldn't be over
your knees in the first place. This isn't a small child you are holding over
your lap by force -- this is a grown man who needs and wants a hard spanking.
Give it to him and pay no attention to his cries for mercy. The longer and
harder you spank, the more he will love you for it.
Domestic discipline, as described here, is probably practiced
in many more homes than you and I would ever guess. If you were to see
my husband and I in a restaurant or walking along the street, you would
never guess in a hundred years that I spank him regularly. I sincerely
believe that if more wives practiced let their husbands know they were
capable of administering a good dose of woodshed discipline, the divorce
rate would drop drastically.
Always remember the key traits of establishing a dominant disciplinary
relationship. When handling discipline issues be firm but fair, strict,
demanding, aloof and unyielding. Don't be afraid to degrade and humiliate,
and above all, when that bare bottom is turned up side down across your
knee waiting for the paddle or hairbrush, don't disappoint him. When
you let him up, his eyes should be wet with tears, his knees should
be quivering, and it should be obvious by looking at his bottom that
he is displaying the marks left after a GOOD session.